Kimberly Esau, MA LMFT
Kimberly Esau, MA LMFT


Here are a few books that you may find helpful on your journey. This is definitely not a complete listing of the best resources available, only some that I have used and found helpful.




Nadeau, Kathleen & Kolberg, Judith (2002) ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life, New York: NY: Psychology Press

Hallowell, Ned, & Ratey, John (1994). Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood. New York, NY:Touchstone

Kessler, Zoë (2013). ADHD According to Zoë. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 


Abuse & Trauma

Allender, Dan (1990). The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress

Allender, Dan (1992) The Wounded Heart: Hope for Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress

Bass, Ellen & Davis, Laura (1992). The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Bass, Ellen and Thornton, Louise (1983). I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York, NY: HarperPerennial.

Blume, Sue E. (1990) Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women. New York: Ballantine Books

Davis, Laura (1990). The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Engel, Beverly (1990). The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself. New York: Fawcett Books.

Engel, Beverly (2006). Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

Herman, Judith (1997). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. New York, NY: Basic Books.

Levine, Peter & Kline, Maggie (2008). Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: A Parent's Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books.

van der Kolk, B.A.The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. New York: NY. Penguin Books


Creativity and Art 

Barron, Carrie & Barron, Alton (2013). The Creativity Cure. Scribner.

Bowley, Flora (2012). Brave Intuitive Painting. Quarry Books.

Bennett, Cat. (2010) The Confident Creative: drawing to free the hand and mind. Findhorn Press.

Brown, Stuart. (2010) Play: how it shapes the brain, opens the imagination, and invigorates the soul. Avery Trade.

Bleiweiss, Sue (2012). The Sketchbook Challenge: Techniques, Prompts, & Inspirations for Achieving Your Creative Goals. Pottercraft.

Cameron, Julia (2002). The Artists Way. Putnam.

Edwards, Betty (1999). The New Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain: A Course in Enhancing Creativity and Artistic Confidence. New York, NY: Penguin Putnam, Inc.

Gregory, Danny (2008). An Illustrated Life: Drawing Inspiration from the Private Sketchbooks of Artists, Illustrators, and Designers. Cincinnati, OH: HOW Books.

Johnson, Cathy (2011). Artist’s Journal Workshop. North Light Books

 McDonough, Mati Rose. (2012). Daring Expressions in Paint. Quarry Books.

McNeil, Suzanne (2013). Ideas & Inspirations for Art Journals & Sketchbooks.East Petersberg, PA: Fox Chapel Publishing. 

Walker, Clare Leslie (2003). Keeping a Nature Journal: Discover a Whole New Way of Seeing the World Around You. Storey Publishing.

Communication and Relationships 

 Gottman, John. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert. New York, NY: Three Rivers Press.

Gottman, John & Gottman, Julie Schwartz (2006). 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage. New York, NY: Random House.

Gottman, John (2001). The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships. New York, NY: Random House.

Hendrix, Harville. (1988). Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. New York, NY: Henry Holt and Company.

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor (1985). The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. New York, NY: Harper & Row.

Rosenberg, Marshall (2005) Living Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life. Encinitas, CA: (PuddleDancer Press).

Whitman, Thomas & Bartlett, Thomas (1996). The Marriage Mender: A Couple’s Guide for Staying Together. Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress.


Parenting, Children & Family Life

Coloroso, Barbara. (2002) Kids are Worth It: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline. New York, NY: HarperCollins.

Doherty, William. (1997). The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties. New York, NY: Quill.

Gordon, Dr. Thomas. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children New York, NY: Three Rivers Press.

Gurian, Micahel. (1996) The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men. New York, NY: Penquin Putnam, Inc.

Greeme, Ross. (2001). The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publisher Inc.

Greenland, Susan Kaiser. (2010). The Mindful Child: How to Help Your Kid Manage Stress and Become Happier, Kinder, and More Compassionate. New York, NY: Free Press

Kindlon, Dan & Thompson, Michael. (2000) Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. New York: Ballatine Books.

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy (2000). Kids, Parents and Power Struggles. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers.

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. (1991) Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for parents whose child is more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, energetic. New York, NY: HarperPerennial.

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. (1998) Raising Your Spirited Child Workbook: A companion workbook to help parents create families where spirit thrives. New York, NY: HarperPerennial.

Siegel, Daniel (2012). The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind.Bantam.

Solter, Aletha. (1989) Helping Young Children Flourish. Goleta, CA: Shining Star Press.


Eating Disorders and Body Image 

Albers, Susan. 50 Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food (2009) Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Albers, Susan (2008). Eat, Drink, and Be Mindful: How to End Your Struggle with Mindless Eating and Start Savoring Food with Intention and Joy. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Albers, Susan (2012). Eating Mindfully: How to End Mindless Eating & Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Berg, Frances. (2001). Women Afraid To Eat: Breaking Free in Today’s Weight-Obsessed World. Hettinger, ND: Healthy Weight Network.

Chernin, Kim. (1981). The Obsession: Reflections on the Tyranny of Slenderness. New York: NY: HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Hirschmann, Jane & Munter, Carol. (1995) When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies: Freeing Yourself from Food and Weight Obsession. Fawcett.

Hirschmann, Jane & Zaphiropoulos, Lela. (1985). Are You Hungry? A Completely New Approach to Raising Children Free of Food and Weight Problems. New York: Random House.

Hirschmann, Jane & Munter, Carol (1988). Overcoming Overeating: At Last! A Book to Help You Break Out of the Diet/Binge Cycle. New York, NY: Ballantine Books.

Institute for Research and Education HealthSystem Minnesota (1999). How Did This Happen? A Practical Guide to Understanding Eating Disorders—for teachers, parents and coaches.

Johnston, Anita. (1996) Eating by the Light of the Moon: How Women can Transform their Relationships with Food through Myths, Metaphors & Storytelling. Carlsbad, CA: Gurze Books.

May, Michelle. (2010) Am I Hungry: What to Do when Diets Don’t Work. Austin, TX: GreenLeaf Book Group Press.

Normandi, Carol Emery & Roark, Laurelee. (1988). It’s not about Food: End Your Obsession with Food and Weight. New York, NY: Penguin Putnam.

Orbach, Susan (1978) Fat is a Feminist Issue. New York: Berkely Publishing Group.

Orbach, Susan (1982). Fat is a Feminist Issue II: A Program to Conquer Compulsive Eating. New York, NY: The Berkley Publishing Group.

Pipher, Mary. (1994) Reviving Ophelia Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls. New York, NY: Ballatine Books.

Roth, Geneen. (1984) Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating. New York, NY: Penguin Group.

Roth, Geneen (1993). Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating. New York, NY: Penguin Group.

Roth, Geneen. (2010) Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything. New York, NY: Scribner.

Schaefer, Jenni & Thom Rutledge. (2004) Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too. New York, NY: McGraw Hill.

Somov, Pavel. (2008) Eating the Moment: 141 Mindful Practices to overcome overeating one meal at a time. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Tribole, Evelyn & Resch, Elyse (2003) Intuitive Eating: Make Peace with Food. Free Yourself from Chronic Dieting Forever. Get to the Natural Weight that Fits You. New York, NY: St. Martin’s Press.


Shame & Wholehearted Living 

Beattie, Melody. (1989). Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time. Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Beattie, Melody (1987) Codependent No More. Center City, MN: HarperCollins.

Brown, Brené (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York, NY: Penguin Group (USA) Inc.

Brown, Brené (2010). The Gift of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Center City, MN: Hazelden.

VanVonderan, Jeff. (1989).Tired of Trying to Measure Up: Getting Free form the Demands, Expectations, and Intimidations of Well-Meaning People. Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers



Barton, Ruth Haley (2010). Invitation to Solitude and Silence: Experiencing God’s Transforming Presence. Downers Grove, IL: IVP Books.

Crabb, Larry (2001). Shattered Dreams: God’s Unexpected Pathway to Joy. Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook Press.

Kidd, Sue Monk (1989). God’s Joyful Surprise: Finding Yourself Loved.New York. NY: Harper & Row.

Kidd, Sue Monk. (1990). When the Heart Waits: Spiritual Direction for Life’s Sacred Questions. New York: Harper Collins.

Manning, Brennan. (1990). The Ragamuffin Gospel: Embracing the Unconditional Love of God. Sisters, OR: Multnomah Books

Manning, Brennan. (1994). Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress.




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Kimberly Esau M.A., L.M.F.T.

Pathways Psychological Services

10700 Old County Rd 15, Suite 170,

Plymouth, MN 55441 






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